Life as a pastor’s kid (PK) can have its perks. We were born with special privileges that other Adventist kids may not have received. Occasionally, we tend to get random offers, gifts and compliments from church members. And we can’t forget the awesome conference subsidy of up to 70 percent! But with pros, there are always cons.
Stereotypically, a lot of expectations are put on us. We are to be a spiritual role model to the other kids at church. The elderly people and even our parents portray us as obedient “saints”. We are supposed to be the “good Christian kid” all the time. They expect us to be perfect because our fathers work for the church.
While we do feel the pressure of being PKs, and while some of these stereotypes might be true, this does not mean that we are any different from any other Adventist kid.
We don’t have to be what other people think we are. We are not conservative or sheltered kids who are shaped to be like robots or who are shaped to be like Isaac. We are just like everyone else. We love to have fun, too.
In contrast to the ‘“good Christian boy” stereotype, there’s another stereotype that goes around the Adventist community, which is the polar opposite. Some say that PKs are the worst kids in the community and, because we were raised and sheltered to be such “good Christian children,” we break out with the urge to do the things that we were strictly forbidden from doing while growing up.
Although some aspects of the stigma of being a “good” or “bad” PK are true, people shouldn’t think of us any differently. Whether they consider us saints or not, PKs should not find themselves victims of unattainable standards and high expectations.